This past week I have noticed that I have been having some serious issues with controlling my cravings for bad foods. I spent a good ten minutes of a lunch hour one day standing in front of the pizza rolls and bagel pizzas debating and trying so hard to talk myself out of buying them. I wasn’t having a bad day or anything, but it was not easy for me. Why is it so difficult on some days? Totally unmotivated, wanting to do nothing, not go to the gym, eat poorly… all while acknowledging it. Having to find the inner strength to talk yourself out of it even though you REALLY don’t want to.
It goes back to my “anonymous addiction” blog and being addicted to the chemicals in the food. I didn’t really think this applied to me until Matt and I were on our way to Cleveland a couple weeks ago. I was what I call “hangry.” What is hangry? Hangry is when your blood sugar drops below a reasonable point and you become unruly, mean, irritable, anything bad you can think of… until you eat something. The worse the food, the happier you’ll be after you eat it. I was being really difficult with him in the car. I knew this. I don’t like being like that. I need to carry something with me so I don’t get like that… I tried nuts, Mom, they don’t even come close to cutting it. I think I need to find a protein bar or something… Anyway, at the gas station he asked me if I wanted anything and I told him either chocolate or something with a ton of calories. I had no idea what he was going to bring me. He came back to the car with Vitamin Water and beef jerky and a Reece’s Egg. Not one of the little ones, two to three bites. No, I mean this thing was the size of an ostrich egg. I’m not kidding. I took one bite and IMMEDIATELY my entire mood changed. I was good for the whole weekend. In that exact moment I saw that as a problem. I realized my body is trying to detox (I drink 100% juice smoothies every day and eat fairly well) so that fix of the candy was immediately satisfying. How do you detox without killing anyone in the meantime? Thank God he can handle me when I get like that. I have a hard enough time with myself, I don’t need someone else snapping at me. I have to find a way to keep everything even and not allow myself to crash like that. It happened today also. It happens more than it should.
The big thing that happened in the past week was I cleaned out my closet. I have clothes anywhere from size 14 to size 22. This is a huge range of clothes. I looked at some dress shirts and I thought they were 20s… they were a 22 and I remember them being TIGHT on me. I put one on. I love the shirts and I would love to wear them, but they’re 3 sizes too big and they really make me feel gross when I wear them. It’s amazing how the right sized clothes can really change your attitude and self image (shout out to Coop).
Side Note: I have a good friend that I have known for probably going on 8 years and he has lost close to ONE HUNDRED pounds. He’s catching up to me very quickly. He attributes his weight loss to me, telling me I inspired him to do it. He has really helped me see the snowball effect I have had on other people in my life. I am grateful for his friendship. He’s at the point where his clothes don’t fit properly. It’s difficult to go out and drop $100 on new clothes, especially when you continue to shrink. I have said no to clothes several times, not wanting to spend significant money on anything because I know I’m going to continue to lose weight and I know next year at this time my clothes won’t fit again. Last year is when I made my transition. I’m blessed to have angels in my life who helped fund my wardrobe change. I went to Old Navy and got plain shirts on sale. This past winter I went to Walmart and got plain long sleeved shirts. Nothing expensive or elaborate.
When I got the new clothes I never got rid of the clothes that were too big. I don’t know why, but there’s a reason for everything. My plan was to sell them to a consignment shop and go and buy the dress from Nordstrom I earned with my hundred pounds lost. I knew I wouldn’t get much, but it would be something. I don’t really remember what happened, but I saw a friend recently who has lost about 65 pounds since last time I saw her. She looks great. I went home and I looked in my closet. I knew I had several shirts that were too big for me but that would be perfect for her! I asked her if she wanted them and she said definitely, that nothing she had fit anymore. That was it. Life got busy and I didn’t forget about it but I didn’t do anything. She sent me a message on Saturday asking if I was serious about the offer. I told her absolutely and I got up at that moment and started cleaning out my closet.
I was pulling shirts off the shelf. I came across a pair of gray dress pants recently. They were a size 20. I put them on for Matt and they were insane. They used to be tight on me. When I cleared off the shelf I found my black pants with white squares (like pinstripes). First thing I did was I looked at the tag. 22. I don’t know what it is but it makes me so emotional to think about it. I have no idea what it is. I put them on and I thought the size 20s were huge. I couldn’t imagine at one point I couldn’t fit in them and I had to go buy a new pair. With them on and now thinking about it, it just hits me so hard. I look down and pull the waistband away from my body and I can see all the way down my legs. It really helps me see how big I really was. Jeans are cut differently and although there is a lot of space in the jeans, there’s something about the dress pants that are just stunning to me. I cry as I write this. Why am I crying? I just can’t believe I let myself get that out of control. I just can’t believe it. It’s really overwhelming.
So I took the pants off and put them back on the shelf. I need a reminder when I weigh 154 pounds of what 309 pounds looks like in clothing. I started taking shirts off hangers. Green, purple, flowy, square neck, v-neck, pink, casual, dressy… you name it, I had it. I texted my friend that I had more than I thought I did and I was so excited to give them to her. I worked my way down the closet rack. I didn’t have to look at the sizes. I knew what was what. I started laying it all out, layering them over each other, in a fanned out fashion. I came across shirts that were on the shelf, that I hadn’t seen in at least a year. Two favorites in particular hit me pretty hard. I just loved the way they looked when I wore them. I felt like I was saying goodbye to an old friend. I thought about keeping them for a brief second and I thought, “I will never wear them again. I won’t wear them now, they’re way too big and I’ll never be that size again. They’re going to a good home.” I took a picture of all of it. Easily 25 tops, at least. All in great condition. I then sorted them by style and started putting them in bags, folding each section.
As I put the last shirt on top of the second bag, I felt very strange. I knew something was happening but I couldn’t figure it out. I saw how empty my closet looked. I sat down on my bed and the tears just started flowing. I was sobbing. They’re coming again as I write this. It’s uncontrollable. I felt so confused about why I was crying. Not being a “cry baby,” when I do cry, I have to have a reason. I couldn’t tell if I was crying from the joy of being able to help a friend in need or if it was something else. It warms my heart that I can help my friend who did so much for me when I was younger and is a wonderful woman. I also felt overwhelming relief. I felt as if a chapter was closing. I don’t have to look at those clothes anymore. I don’t have that huge reminder of what I once was. I feel like that part of my life is closing and I’m moving on. I’m not going back and I never will. I was so unhappy in those clothes. I wasn’t who I was supposed to be. I was the toxic person.
So now what? I didn’t feel any more motivated after cleaning out my closet. Bestie sent me a text today telling me that Matt and I should run the Capital City 5k. It hit me immediately. I thought about it for a little bit and the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to do it. I texted Matt that I think we should do it. So we’re going to do it. I called Bestie after work and as soon as I started talking about it I got emotional. I told her that I was hoping something would motivate, somehow, and that her message did it. She told me that she’s been trying to think of a way to get me motivated and that she remembered when I went to the half marathon with her, that’s where the original inspiration to get healthy came from. I am so blessed to have a best friend that just understand me and the way I work and the way I think and the way I feel. I thanked her for helping motivate me to get on track and that starting Monday, I will be back in the gym. I have a month to be able to run 3.1 miles and not die. I’ll do it. I still haven’t lost my 100… I’ll get there. Better late than never. It happens and it’s not worth being totally depressed about. Time to move on and continue to change my life.